Journey Series: Mervelline


The Femme Oasis: How do you identify yourself (gender and gender performance)?

Mervelline: I identify as female. Feminine. 

TFO: What is your current occupation?

M: I am a Business Development Representative at Groupon. Which is largely a sales role but has major components of marketing. 

TFO: What do you do as a hobby?

F: I’m part-time fashion blogger/fashion columnist, and I do some coding work as well.  

TFO: What are some organizations you’re involved in?

M: I recently joined a graduate chapter of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc. I’ve been in the organization since 2015 and had the privilege of serving as president of my chapter in my last year of undergrad. 

TFO: What is your dream job?

M: My dream job is to create my own marketing and web development agency. Which would focus on growing businesses, new and established, by helping them create a cohesive brand image through social media and the business’ website. 20% of the proceeds from this agency would go towards supporting women in the Democratic of Congo who often experiences sexual violence at the hands of Congolese soldiers and civilians. 

TFO: What are the three major stressors in your life?

M: My three major stressors in my life: my Future, my lack of time management/being a procrastinator, and being an adult.

TFO: How do you cope with your stresses (if at all)?

M: I haven’t found a healthy way to deal with my stress yet. Most of the times I just avoid it by going to sleep. It’s certainly a work in progress.

TFO: Do you have goals you set for your life overall?

M: I have a lot of goals for my life, but the issue is choosing which goals to fully dedicate myself to because I’m still trying to find my purpose in life.

TFO: What is your process in achieving these goals?

M: I don’t know for sure, but I know it’s going to take a lot of hard working. Quite honestly the only challenge that I’m up for. 

TFO: Are you happy where you are in life?

M: The answer to that question isn’t a strong “no,” but it’s also not a yes.

TFO: If not, would you say you’re unhappy, or just not completely satisfied because you want better/more?

M: I’m definitely not satisfied with where I’m at in my life right now because the job that I have isn’t something that I’m passionate about. 

TFO: Are you on a path you feel is right for you?

M: I’m conflicted because I just graduated college a few months ago, so I’m not sure if anything I’m doing is right. 

TFO: Do you feel confused or pressure to figure out if you are on the right path?

M: I feel both. Confused because I’m still trying to figure out my purpose. Pressured because I feel like I'm at this critical time in my life where I don’t want to make a decision that’s going to have a negative influence on my future. 

TFO: If you feel you aren’t on the right path for you, what are your roadblock(s)?

M: My patience. Wanting to be at a certain point in my life when I know I have to work and take certain steps before getting there. 

TFO: Do you feel you can alleviate these hindrances or do you feel they are bigger than you?

M: At the moment they’re bigger than me. I’ll figure it out eventually. 

TFO: What are some pressures of society you wish didn’t exist?

M: The pressure to be with a partner, especially as a woman, so that you can get married and have kids. Society wanting women to be ladylike or “respectable,” what does that even mean? 

TFO: What would be one thing you don’t have, but you want at this very moment (it can be tangible or intangible)?

M: A legit sense of direction. Being an adult is a scam.

TFO: What do you do for self-care (if anything)?

M: Wine. I love wine, especially sweet red wine. My favorite at the moment is Don Simon’s Sangria. Delicious. Other than wine, I stopped going out to clubs and things of that nature because I no longer have the desire to be in those spaces with strangers, I’d rather be at home. 

TFO: What is something you do well that you can offer society?

M: I’ll let you know. 

TFO: Do you have goods or services you want to sell or promote to your fellow femmes and women?

M: At the moment, no. Check back in though. 

TFO: Where can we find you (social media, email, organization, etc.)?

M: You can find me on twitter: @simplymerv_ for all my ratchet, no filter tweets; Instagram: @simplymerv_ for weekly or monthly updates on what I'm doing. You can also find me at, and the Instagram for my blog is @bysimplymerv for all my fashion related posts.