Does Penis Size Matter?

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A SHORT INTERVIEW WITH Ambrosia

Daion: Let’s just jump right out with it. Does dick size matter?

Ambrosia: Um, I believe it does because it is a form of connection that we share with another person and we all need pleasure from it. Our body type can either be congruent or incongruent with others. Matched or not matched...

D: Do you have a preference when it comes down to the men/man you decide to lay down with?

A: I mean, I usually look at a partner from their external appearances or attributes. So I usually go for someone who looks more manly, someone who looks like they may have the penis size that I want. Unfortunately, someone who has a smaller size, um, can be a turnoff...sexually. I feel like I can still hold a friendship with someone I like and can’t sexually please me though.

D: Okay, so, have you had different encounters with different sized penises? Elaborate if you may.

A: Yes, um. [chuckles] Yes, um. You know, just because a guy is a larger size doesn't necessarily mean they are gonna be sexually pleasing. So it's really hard to judge. One time my teacher told me, “it's not the size of the ship but the motion in the ocean.”

D: So, do you personally believe that you cannot be happy with a man whose penis does not match your expectations ?

A: Um, sexual pleasure is important to me. [smiles to herself] Like I said, I believe I can still hold a relationship with someone who doesn't have that ability, but when choosing a lifelong partner, I want to be with someone who does sexually please me. It wouldn't be the smartest idea for me to end up with someone with a smaller penis.

D: Have you ever had an encounter with someone with a rather smaller penis...but told him? Or did you fake the funk?

A: Um, I have told them. Um, I’ve let them know that I felt that my body type and their penis size didn't match. I’m much taller than average and I feel like proportionally, some things on me may be deeper than other women. We’re all made differently, you know. To a certain extent, I do believe that you should be able to tell someone they weren’t sexually pleasing. I mean, it could be offensive, but I feel like if you aren’t dogging them out because of the penis size, then it’s okay to tell them. You know, you may want the ring, but may not be able to fit it. There’s someone out there for everybody though; I do believe that.

D: Have you ever had to ‘fake moan’ because of penis size?

A: Yes, I have. I didn’t know what sexual pleasure should feel like prior to my first orgasm. I didn’t necessarily want to hurt my partner’s feelings. I went with the flow because I assumed that that’s what it's supposed to be like, feel like. And I believe that’s where my overall opinion on penis size stems from...that particular experience.

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Miss Ambrosia

D: Is penis sizing a form of body shaming?

A: It’s the same with girls. Some guys prefer girls with bigger asses than some or fuller titties than some. We all have expectations of one another and even though it may be too harsh to think about or accept for that matter. But is getting mad worth it? Do you get mad at the fact that women want a specific penis size or do you get upset at the man who wants a more tighter, wetter, more aesthetically attractive vagina?

D: What makes a big dick good and a small dick bad?

A: It’s not a question of whether it's ‘good’ or ‘bad.’ I think it's just a personal preference. Some women can’t take a larger penis, or “handle the dick”, while some women prefer a smaller-sized penis to comfortably fit their vaginal area. Some women like pain, some women don’t.

 
 

 
So, does penis size matter? 

The dick size talk is not a secret to anyone, not even to dudes. I mean, it’s almost every woman’s favorite gossip talk. Men always get the benefit of talking about the size of women’s asses and titties, but us women? We enjoy the sex talk, the “how did it feel” talk, the “how big was it” talk. When you’re just gossipping with your girls over a drink and good food, the relationship talks, dating talks, and sex talks all come into play.

It’s extremely common for women to have a preference when it comes to a man’s treasured goods, whether it be the thickness, its length, circumcised or not, hell, even the coloring of it. I mean, that’s just how particular women can be. They say the bigger the better. But just how big? Some women prefer a man with a lot more to offer than most, I’m talking mandingo gifts. These particular sized penises can sometimes cause sex pains, a favorite of some women. Hell, some of us like pain–sexual pain that is. Then there’s some who prefer a penis at a more ‘general’ size, with less pain, but ‘more enjoyment,’ they say. So what do you prefer ladies? Bigger or smaller?

You see, there’s always been different stereotypes concerning men’s penis sizes. For example, they say most chocolate men have bigger dicks than those with lighter complexions. Or what about short dudes allegedly having thicker meat? Or even that tall dudes have ‘longer’ penises? I’ve heard them all, and let’s face it, we’ve all had encounters with different sizes. Answer me this, ladies: Does size matter? Or is it really about what the man can do with his goods in the bedroom? What really matters? Let me help you all out a bit.

How many of you ladies have actually told an unfortunate bachelor that his man goods didn’t size up with your body type nor needs? See, telling men that their penis is “too small” is like an ego reducer, similar to how men belittle women by labeling them fat or ugly. It is a form of body-shaming that goes unrecognized daily. Some say that size matters and some say it doesn’t. In all actuality, dick size does not indicate successful or unsuccessful performances, nor does it necessarily result in successful orgasms. It’s true men can’t control their dick size, but their actual ‘stroke’ is another story. I’ve had disappointing experiences with larger penises, just as I have with smaller ones. My encounters with the largest and the smallest hold major differences. To help you all figure out what matters most, think not only about the size and shape, but the stroke too, the intensity. I have friends that strictly prefer the bigger bait, while some prefer not to feel ‘so much pain.’ Is the size still an issue when different sexual positions are attempted? It’s common for a man’s dick to feel different as different positions are tried out. Different as in sometimes better, or even surprisingly better. It varies by woman and by preference. You may find women who had a bad run with a rather large penis, or, in other words, larger and inexperienced. You may also find women who encountered a smaller penis, expected it to be ‘trash,’ but ended up enjoying all of its benefits.

There’s no real ‘average-sized’ penis. We, as a society, have established what an average penis size should be. We’ve established that a large penis is the norm and smaller penises are irregular, that if a man wears a large size in shoes, then he wears a large size in his pants as well, and that big hands constitutes big dicks. We’ve normalized what ‘good sex’ consists of, or what ‘good dick’ is for that matter. So again ladies: Does penis size matter?