Taking it in the A**
Anal sex seems to be that thing that people are secretly into, something that's not spoken of, but you know a lot of people are doing it, whether its oral, anal, fingering, butt plugs, or just anal intercourse. It also seems to be one of those sexual acts that people love, hate, or haven't ever tried it and that's fine too. And if you haven't tried it, let me be the first person to tell you not to sell yourself short! Anal sex is such a different type of pleasure and sensations. And when people first try anal sex they may not like it at first because of the discomfort, but sometimes it takes a few tries so be patient. If you do try it and write it off completely that's fine too, because its not for everyone. When you begin to have anal sex there are a few important things that can help you out: hygiene, patience, lubricant, communication, and positioning! These things can make or break your first anal experience so I'm going to explain to you what to do when you're a beginner and why all these help!
CLEANLINESS. You’re penetrating an area that’s made for elimination, you need to make sure that the area is very clean. Have a bath or shower beforehand and thoroughly clean the area.
TAKE YOUR TIME. Doing foreplay or intercourse before trying anal sex for the first time can help relax you. Oral anal is also another way to help your body relax. Run your tongue over the anus, gently, take your time!
LUBRICANT, LOTS AND LOTS OF LUBRICANT. The anus is not self-lubricating,lubricants help a lot with making penetration pleasing and comfortable. Water-based and silicone-based lubes work well with both latex condoms. Use as much lubricant that you feel you need no such thing as too much.
FINGERING. Before inserting anything large into your anus begin with you or your partner’s fingers. Apply lube to your finger and gently insert it without moving it around in order to get used to the feeling of something being in their anus. Once you are comfortable slowly start to move your finger in and out and around. When you are comfortable enough try inserting a second. Go slowly and stay relaxed if you get uncomfortable you can stop at any time .
POSITIONS. Picking the best position may make the biggest difference. Doggie style seems to be the most common anal sex position, but it doesn't mean it best one for first timers. Missionary position is typically a better position for first timers, it allows you to fully relax your anus, making penetration a lot easier.
PENETRATION. When you’re ready for penetration, begin slowly and gently inserting the tip into your anus. In the beginning you might feel some discomfort, sometimes a little pain, because it’s your first time. But if you’re really uncomfortable or in a lot of pain, ask your partner to stop immediately.
GOING DEEP. When your partner has inserted the tip they then can slowly penetrate your anus, but at a gentle pace that you feel comfortable with. Breathing, remaining relaxed, and talking your partner through what you’re feeling is important.
IMPORTANT NOTE: When your partner has been inside the rectum, don’t put it inside anywhere else until you have washed yourself.